The gift of Second Chances


We all have big changes in our lives which are more or less second chances. ~ Harrison Ford

Everything in life changes. Everything can change. We know that those changes can sometimes bring good things and sometimes they can bring unimaginable pain. Good or bad, these changes can also bring second chances, chances that we don’t always welcome the way by which they come to us, but chances to do better, be better.

As you all know, there have been major changes in our lives as of late. Emma’s diagnosis, and most recently the death of my sister’s husband. For friends, everything from major surgeries, to sick parents, to losing homes. It seems the painful changes are the ones that stick on our hearts like tacky rubber cement. Sometimes stretching just enough away from our hearts only to be snapped back at the smell, sound, touch or sight of something. In this pain is most often where our chances lie.

In my own situation, I have found the chances to be a ladder out of grief and guilt. The chance to find ways to help others while helping our own family. My Brother-in-Law’s death has given me a second chance to be a better sister. To not just be ok with every once in a while. To remember that to make the effort has the ultimate payoff, a better relationship with my sister.

We can all find these chances. We must refocus the lens of our pain, frustrations, sadness, guilt, to become opportunity, strength, commitment and a rejuvenation of mind and soul.

It’s certainly not easy and there will be good days and bad days, but the first step is to think about “how would I want it to be?” Sometimes the very point of definition is the place from where the snowball can start to roll down the hill.

Starting is the key and the rest will come and to start on your second chances today may just give you the spark to make today ‘anewfavoriteday.’

16 thoughts on “The gift of Second Chances

  1. Shannon, the truth in this post is so universal and so appropriate not just today, but everyday. Sending lots of love and light to you and yours. xoxo (I’m off to share this on both of my pages…)

  2. Thank you Shannon, you are a wonderful daughter and sister. I love you and your being there for your sister was a great comfort to me as well.

  3. Once again you have so eloquently written something we all need to be reminded of.
    So sorry to hear about your brother in law!

    Sending you and your family many prayers and much love!

  4. Shannon, I am so sorry for your loss….and for Emma’s diagnosis….you will be in my prayers and remain always in my heart. I am here and if you ever need anything or just to come visit or call and yak or…know I am praying for you, Emma and your sister.

  5. I’ve been thinking of you ever since your post on Emma’s diagnosis so I came to check on you today and then I saw the rainbow pic. Rainbows have always been my little sign from Hadley. So I visited for you but found something for me :).
    I hope you are doing okay and I’m so sorry your family has suffered such a loss.

    1. Thanks so much Jessica. I am sorry for the delay, I have been processing and trying to keep my perspective at the same time:) Yes, I found the rainbow so poignant. The girl in the picture is actually my sister…there was a rainbow shining over her as she was on the phone…to me it was her husband saying, it’s ok, I am still here, just in a different way. It seems you feel the same as Hadley is still shining down as well… xoxo to you and thank you.

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