The gift of Second Chances

November 7, 2012


We all have big changes in our lives which are more or less second chances. ~ Harrison Ford

Everything in life changes. Everything can change. We know that those changes can sometimes bring good things and sometimes they can bring unimaginable pain. Good or bad, these changes can also bring second chances, chances that we don’t always welcome the way by which they come to us, but chances to do better, be better.

As you all know, there have been major changes in our lives as of late. Emma’s diagnosis, and most recently the death of my sister’s husband. For friends, everything from major surgeries, to sick parents, to losing homes. It seems the painful changes are the ones that stick on our hearts like tacky rubber cement. Sometimes stretching just enough away from our hearts only to be snapped back at the smell, sound, touch or sight of something. In this pain is most often where our chances lie.

In my own situation, I have found the chances to be a ladder out of grief and guilt. The chance to find ways to help others while helping our own family. My Brother-in-Law’s death has given me a second chance to be a better sister. To not just be ok with every once in a while. To remember that to make the effort has the ultimate payoff, a better relationship with my sister.

We can all find these chances. We must refocus the lens of our pain, frustrations, sadness, guilt, to become opportunity, strength, commitment and a rejuvenation of mind and soul.

It’s certainly not easy and there will be good days and bad days, but the first step is to think about “how would I want it to be?” Sometimes the very point of definition is the place from where the snowball can start to roll down the hill.

Starting is the key and the rest will come and to start on your second chances today may just give you the spark to make today ‘anewfavoriteday.’

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About Shannon Pruitt from 'Mynewfavoriteday'

Welcome to 'mynewfavoriteday. This space is about gratitude and connecting through being open, vulnerable and real. I hope you will enjoy my take on motivation, inspiration and advocacy and will take the opportunity to tell me of your own thoughts and stories. Why I started 'mynewfavoriteday.' I am a childhood surviving, divorced, now happily married, IVF (and now natural pregnancy) success story, working mother of 2 amazing babies who were born 12 weeks premature. As life often seems to surprise you when you least expect it, we added another sweet baby girl M to our family in July of 2013. While our angel minis, Q and E are now 7 years old, our son, Q, has thrived while our daughter, E, has had a much more difficult journey. She is considered special needs and in September of 2012 was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder called Angelman Syndrome. And so, as she has grown, so do we as individuals and as family. How to help her, how to celebrate our differences while allowing ourselves to cope with the challenges that we never knew to expect. Thus, while much of this blog is based on our experiences (good and not-so-good), it is also based on how we must not let ourselves become victims of our circumstances but rather advocate in our own lives. A little bit about me and who I am. In my professional life I am a marketer in the Entertainment Industry; however, ‘mynewfavoriteday,’ was not born of entertainment or marketing but rather as a pathway to help myself and others as we try to define who we are as parents, family members, spouses, friends, colleagues and people. I believe in never judging a book by its cover. Every cover is different, and no matter what your cover looks like, you never know how someone's book is written. Like mine. From the outside, you might never know what truly makes me who I am or what I believe. This blog explores the pages on the inside of my book. My vulnerabilities, fears, happiness, and all my triggers through the lens of being grateful for all the amazing blessings I know I have received but sometimes forget in the challenges of daily life. Thanks again for dropping by. I hope you will come back, subscribe, comment, share, and/or just hang out and be inspired or motivated to make each day for yourself or someone else 'anewfavoriteday.' By being here, you have certainly helped to make it mine. xo, Shannon

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16 Comments on “The gift of Second Chances”

  1. Karen Says:

    What a powerful post! Thanks for the reminder. Good luck with your new second chances. I’m sure somehow you and your family will overcome.


  2. Transitioning Mom Says:

    Shannon, the truth in this post is so universal and so appropriate not just today, but everyday. Sending lots of love and light to you and yours. xoxo (I’m off to share this on both of my pages…)


  3. Michael Sweeny Says:

    Thank you Shannon, you are a wonderful daughter and sister. I love you and your being there for your sister was a great comfort to me as well.


  4. Katie redmond Says:

    Once again you have so eloquently written something we all need to be reminded of.
    So sorry to hear about your brother in law!

    Sending you and your family many prayers and much love!


  5. Claire Tavernier (@CTav) Says:

    Oh sweetie… So sorry to hear about your sister’s husband. I’m in LA next week. Would love to meet up. Sending love.


  6. Hot Rod Cowgirl Says:

    Shannon, I am so sorry for your loss….and for Emma’s diagnosis….you will be in my prayers and remain always in my heart. I am here and if you ever need anything or just to come visit or call and yak or…know I am praying for you, Emma and your sister.


  7. Jessica Says:

    I’ve been thinking of you ever since your post on Emma’s diagnosis so I came to check on you today and then I saw the rainbow pic. Rainbows have always been my little sign from Hadley. So I visited for you but found something for me :).
    I hope you are doing okay and I’m so sorry your family has suffered such a loss.


    • Shannon Pruitt from 'Mynewfavoriteday' Says:

      Thanks so much Jessica. I am sorry for the delay, I have been processing and trying to keep my perspective at the same time:) Yes, I found the rainbow so poignant. The girl in the picture is actually my sister…there was a rainbow shining over her as she was on the phone…to me it was her husband saying, it’s ok, I am still here, just in a different way. It seems you feel the same as Hadley is still shining down as well… xoxo to you and thank you.


  8. eof737 Says:

    Yes, it’s been a tough year for many, many folk… Sorry to read about your brother-n-law’s passing… Sending healing light and love to your family


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