“What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies.”– Rudolph Giuliani
Today is a special day, as October 5th was the anniversary of my beloved Grandma Grace and Grandpa Virgil. If my math is right, and my mom can confirm, they would have been married 70 years today.
Now that they have been gone for 6 years and 4 years respectively, I still see them from time to time in my dreams and sometimes in my heart as I walk down the street. As you may be able to tell, I was very close to my grandma and grandpa, and as a child they were like the sun, moon and stars to me. They only lived about 1/4 mile from our apartment and the first time I ever ran away, it was to their house that I tried to go. Not because I wanted to get away, but because I wanted to be with them. They cherished my sisters and me and no matter what, they had our back.
Last Friday as I was bringing E out of her Occupational Therapy appointment, and we walked to the car, we found ourselves behind an older man who was making his way delicately down the sidewalk. Slowly moving yet hurriedly shuffling. As if a ray of sun shone down directly and intensely on this man, I looked at him and the feeling of being near my grandpa and grandma overcame me.
I hugged E tightly to my chest and explained to her, yet again (she must at some point in her little mind think I am a bit loopy for as much as I tell her about them) how much her great grandparents would have loved her. I tell her about how I believe that they cradled she and Q gently in their arms before sending them down to us right after my Grandpa passed (2 souls gone to be replaced with our precious angels). That she is so blessed to have them now as her guardian angels (literally, I think they saved her life one night 3 weeks after she came home from the NICU), and, that it is such an honor for her to have her great grandma’s name as her middle name, Grace. And finally, about how, I was sad that they are no longer here and that I miss them.
But today, as I wake up with my babies and my grandma and grandpa looking down on us, I will raise a ba-ba and cheers to their 70th (ish) anniversary. I will tell the babies about how much I loved their great-grandma and grandpa and how mama and dada will be using them as example for our marriage in the many years to come. Thinking of them smiling down on us will bring us ‘ournewfavoriteday.’
Is anyone smiling down on you today? If there is anyone, like a grandparent, parent, sister, brother, best friend, that you have lost, I wish you fondness in thinking of them today and I hope that they love you felt for them and they for you, can make today ‘yournewfavoriteday.’
Happy Anniversary Grandma and Grandpa. Thank you for the love, kindness, commitment, raisin toast, OJ, ice cream, being with me to learn to ride a bike, washing my scraped knees, keeping us clothed, patience, Lawrence Welk and for just about everything you did for us. I love and miss you.