We all have big changes in our lives which are more or less second chances. ~ Harrison Ford
Everything in life changes. Everything can change. We know that those changes can sometimes bring good things and sometimes they can bring unimaginable pain. Good or bad, these changes can also bring second chances, chances that we don’t always welcome the way by which they come to us, but chances to do better, be better.
As you all know, there have been major changes in our lives as of late. Emma’s diagnosis, and most recently the death of my sister’s husband. For friends, everything from major surgeries, to sick parents, to losing homes. It seems the painful changes are the ones that stick on our hearts like tacky rubber cement. Sometimes stretching just enough away from our hearts only to be snapped back at the smell, sound, touch or sight of something. In this pain is most often where our chances lie.
In my own situation, I have found the chances to be a ladder out of grief and guilt. The chance to find ways to help others while helping our own family. My Brother-in-Law’s death has given me a second chance to be a better sister. To not just be ok with every once in a while. To remember that to make the effort has the ultimate payoff, a better relationship with my sister.
We can all find these chances. We must refocus the lens of our pain, frustrations, sadness, guilt, to become opportunity, strength, commitment and a rejuvenation of mind and soul.
It’s certainly not easy and there will be good days and bad days, but the first step is to think about “how would I want it to be?” Sometimes the very point of definition is the place from where the snowball can start to roll down the hill.
Starting is the key and the rest will come and to start on your second chances today may just give you the spark to make today ‘anewfavoriteday.’